tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8871433400980375714.post7594646548179262728..comments2024-02-20T21:39:49.265-08:00Comments on I Am Neurotic And I Need Help...: This One is For The Girls......................Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10237058236131496554noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8871433400980375714.post-14490667134363290492013-07-16T03:34:44.089-07:002013-07-16T03:34:44.089-07:00My dear friend Debbie, thank you for your kind wor...My dear friend Debbie, thank you for your kind words and support! First off never sell yourself short. You are not only an amazing friend but also a truly talented poet. Your poetry has inspired me in so many ways and I know I'm not the only one.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10237058236131496554noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8871433400980375714.post-16406067356765280562013-07-15T20:24:57.100-07:002013-07-15T20:24:57.100-07:00um WOW. Nelly, you are such an amazing writer, way...um WOW. Nelly, you are such an amazing writer, way better than myself and so smart and you have a way of saying things that make them very accessible. I admire this about you SO much. Lately I havent had time to read much. I finally found some and the only thing I wanted to read was your words, they provide comfort, the provide a service to your readers, you are needed.<br />oh, and lets not forget female circumcision...women have been treated horribly for years. In many Muslem countries if a woman gets raped she gets punished because it was her fault for leaving the house without her husband.<br />thanks for the read, it was a good one...excellent timing for me. keep writing. you will have a book in no time, a book EVERYONE should read, that says a lot. I just write crap a handful of people care about. Debbiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12209711827956431185noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8871433400980375714.post-4525781963881449322013-07-14T16:20:00.234-07:002013-07-14T16:20:00.234-07:00Thank you so much Rita! Girls have the whole word...Thank you so much Rita! Girls have the whole word at their fingertips and yet have no idea what they can become. I blame mostly the media in the way girls see themselves. It so easy to get caught up what the movies and magazines show us. What we are told we have to look like or how we should behave. It scares me. I'm sure your daughters are great girls. :). I think we as women need to reach out and show all girls they are so much more than they realize. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10237058236131496554noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8871433400980375714.post-64417819082463126682013-07-14T15:35:14.262-07:002013-07-14T15:35:14.262-07:00Hahaha! Old bitty?? You're not :) I'm a si...Hahaha! Old bitty?? You're not :) I'm a single mum with twin 17 year old girls. You've decribed them perfectly here! Funny thing though they would probably identify many of their friends like this but not see it in themselves. They're good girls & dont give me too much grief. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10501264968138357589noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8871433400980375714.post-65797033401183424512013-07-14T12:57:06.900-07:002013-07-14T12:57:06.900-07:00Thank you Elann DeVoss. I totally agree. :)Thank you Elann DeVoss. I totally agree. :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10237058236131496554noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8871433400980375714.post-79943846718698162282013-07-14T12:32:55.377-07:002013-07-14T12:32:55.377-07:00I agree 100% with what you said and have thought a...I agree 100% with what you said and have thought about it several times. <br /><br />To me, I feel like growing up I was almost FORCED to be no different than a man. Which, I'm completely okay with...to a point. I 100% believe that women STILL need to push for equal rights. And we DESERVE equal rights. And I don't think schools are teaching anything about how much women have had to suffer to get where we are, which is a shame. <br /><br />Until I met my husband I was all combat boots, sports bras, and sweatshirts. And I think (HOPE) this whole self-objectification thing will fade out quickly. When these girls are start to realize the real-world consequences of what they're doing to themselves, hopefully it will end. Hopefully the conversations and therapy sessions will start, and this will all turn around. <br /><br />But at the same time, sometimes I just want to feel pretty. I just want to put on a dress, and eyeliner, and let myself be vulnerable. I never felt that way before my husband, though. So maybe that has skewed my perspective. <br /><br />I always kind of felt like maybe a lot of these girls are doing this because of traditional gender roles. Now hear me out. Traditional gender roles, as viewed by most under 20's, are nothing like what most people think of as traditional gender roles. But at the same time, they're growing up in a time where there are NO gender roles. It's thrown at (most of) them from day 1 that they can do anything, regardless of gender. You're a man that wants to wear an evening dress and sing? Go for it. You're a woman and wants to be president? Go for it. And I'm so glad for that.<br /><br />But it at the same time, it does leave slight confusion in young minds. There's just enough hold over of grandparents saying 'girls should do this and boys should do this' that I think it could be causing confusion. <br /><br />I have no idea if I made my point, I'm not about to go back and read the novel I just left you, sorry about that by the way, but I'm blaming it on perception of gender roles and what they play(ed) in society. LEDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11040839516522223206noreply@blogger.com